I was having one of those days last week. The kind where you wonder exactly HOW MUCH bad news one person can handle in one day. I was starting to do that whole poisonous "why me?" self talk and felt that negativity entering my brain like a toxin. I needed to get rid of that bad attitude and quick.
I decided to concentrate on all the things I have to be grateful for. A cliche, yes, and hard to do in the throes of challenging times, but wholly necessary nonetheless. As I was going through my mental checklist of "Things I Am Grateful For", I thought about how nice it would be to get the kids involved in the process. I went to the Rite Aid, picked up a very specific journal I was looking for that has pages divided with the top half blank for drawing and the bottom half lined with clear delineations for beginner writers to follow.
I came home and declared this our new Family Gratitude Journal. I did not create any rules regarding contributing to the journal. I just filled out the first page with my own entry and told the kids they could take the journal down from its accessible spot in the kitchen anytime they wanted to write in it, whenever they felt inspired to do so, I didn't want to make it "homework-like".
Last night my mom and sister (who is here visiting from Spain for a couple months doing a teaching gig in the Bay Area) spent the night and we all hung out together. My sister added a contribution to the journal, as did my mom. And after seeing the grown ups participate in it, the kids were then really excited to add their own contributions to the journal.
As the book begins to take life and fill up page by page I am realizing exactly how cool this will be once it is completely full (which will certainly take a while).
First of all, it will be so much fun to look back and see all the delightful, charming and heart warming things the kids came up with for their declarations of gratitude. Second of all, it will be so sweet and tender to see their transformation and growth over the course of 2010. Ellie has already blown me away going from not being able to read or write at all when she entered Kindergarten this past September to reading and writing really simply phrases and words. It just BLOWS me away.
I'm so glad a really dark day turned into such a bright new tradition in our family.
I took a couple quick pictures this afternoon with my point and shoot (forgive the quality) to show the first few entries. I *highly* recommend doing something like this. It's nearly impossible not to have a smile on your face after adding (or reading) an entry. Such a great way to maintain perspective and gratitude in your head and in your heart, especially during trying times.
I hope everyone enjoys the rest of their weekend!!
Ok so, disclaimer, I cannot draw to save my life. The drawing skills in our family, descended from our maternal grandfather who was an AMAZING and well known artist, all went to my mom and my two sisters. I cannot draw a stick figure to save my life. So, yes, my entry looks like a 5 yr old drew it. I'm OK with that. Really. I am. :)
Later that night, Auntie Seraphine filled in her entry. When my mom and sister arrived last night we cranked up the stereo and all danced our hearts out in the kitchen. It was so much fun! Yes, she drew this in about three minutes. I hate her.
Then my mom filled in her entry the next morning while eating breakfast. There is a funny story behind this one.... So, as my mom was tucking the kids into bed she turned off the bathroom light (which is between the two kids rooms) and Ellie jumped out of bed, went to turn on the light, and said: "Mamisha, we leave the bathroom light on or it's too dark." My mom said "Oh, I'm sorry." And Ellie replied, in the absolutely sweetest and nicest little voice: "Oh, it's OK Mamisha, you didn't know, you're just a little old grandma, you don't know these things!" I literally fell off the couch laughing. You'd think my mom was borderline senile after a statement like that but she is the most vibrant, energetic, productive person you will ever meet. The original Energizer Bunny. Which is why that was sooooo funny!
Then, later today after a trip to the beach with everyone, Ellie filled in her entry. It says: "I am grateful for nature" and features a picture of all of us playing at the beach.
Gavin was the last one to fill in the journal today and he drew this. It says: "I am grateful for my family, house and friends."
Since then, there have been three new entries that the kids have filled in on their own, suddenly, it seems, inspired to share and document the many things they appreciate in life that make them happy. And I could not possibly be any more grateful for that. :)